homojabi:

Girls are never taught how attraction to other girls should feel, and on top of that we are told that we are “catty” and competitive and that we should always be comparing ourselves to other girls so that we can be better than them. The reason that “life goals or wife goals” exists is because checking out a girl or finding a girl pretty plays on our distorted feelings towards girls in general. What feels like jealousy could also very well be admiration and attraction, but since those feelings are never validated it’s impossible to recognize them for what they are and easy to see them as anything but.